陈豪在北京的ABC美国公司工作。他有事去找美国同事Amy。
A：Hi Chen Hao, how are you?
C：我有个问题，要请告诉你。你有空闲吗?
A：Sure. I dont have anything on my calendarfor another hour. Whats the matter?
C：大家正在做一个新项目，宣传最新的顾客服务计划。
A：That sounds like a good idea. We can alwaysimprove customer service. Why is that a problem?
C：大家成立了一个小组，包含三男三女，以前互不相识，结果交流上出现了问题，影响了项目进度。
A：What kind of communication issues?
C：事先声明，我可没大男子主义，但我感觉那三个女的浪费了不少时间。
A：How?
C：她们喜欢谈私事。很不容易谈到主题了，她们又没完没了，直到大伙都他们案认可了才肯停手。
A：Its good to be sure that you are all in accord.
C：可任何事都要有节制啊。有几次我为了推进进度，打断了她们，结果她们特不开心。
A：I understand what is happening. You have a gender issue.
C：什么?性别问题?
A：This is going to take a bit more time to explain. Can we continue our conversation overlunch?
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Amy和陈豪午饭时继续上午的话题。
C：我想了一上午，如何也想不通早上大家说的事如何会跟性别有关。
A：Remember that you started off by telling me that there were some problems in thegroup and you immediately zeroed in on the women.
C：没错，进度慢，就是那几个女同事的责任。
A：Men and women have different approaches to communication that both need tounderstand.
C：男士和女人交流的方法，可能是不同。大家几个男的都感觉可以行动了，但那几个女的老感觉太仓促。
A：As with all conflict, you need to take time to address this. You should talk about whatis happening, attempt to understand each other and resolve the issue in a cooperativemanner.
C：加深相互理解?那具体该如何做呢?
A：Tell the women you appreciate their opinions and expertise. Ask them to focus moreon business conversation and less on personal. Next consider how you men are behaving.
C：难道说大家这类男的也有做错的地方吗?
A：You admitted that you interrupted in an effort to move things along. I bet that you arealso trying to dominate and give the women as little chance as possible to speak up.
C：我承认，大家确实有控制会议之嫌。通常情况下，听完她们的建议，大家就不再去看她们，生怕她们没完没了地说 下去。
A：To avoid additional strife and accommodate each other, you need to sTOPinterrupting and trying to dominate.
C：我了解了，男士期望立刻找到解决问题的方法，而女人喜欢先花时间，打造关系，因此双方就会出现矛盾。
